TMI TUESDAY - BREAKING UP

This week’s TMI Tuesday idea is from Heelsnstocking

1. What’s the worst reason you have been given for breaking up?

I think everyone goes through a painful break-up.  I was "dumped" only once, but that is more than enough.  I was engaged to this idiot I was completely in love with for three long years.  And on that fateful dinner night, he had to end what I once thought was a beautiful relationship by a stupid line that goes almost like this if I recall: "The last person I would want to see hurting in this world is you.  I am not good enough for you and I would much rather spare you a lifetime of pain and regret..."  Hell yeah, fuck him!

2. What’s the worst reason you gave, to someone, for breaking up?

I've been pretty good at this, sadly. Sometimes I think about wishing I have re-written the things I said as I know how painful these must have been.  But back then, I didn't give a hoot!

• "We both need time to be apart.  I need time to reflect on my life.  You need time to grow up."
• "You are way too serious in this relationship.  I am really here for the sex and the smokes."
• "I honestly believe you will be happier with your Mom."
• "If you can not be secure enough to see that I have SOLD written on my forehead, then you should at least get used to other guys giving me 'the look'."
• "Honestly, you want to know why?  Because I can not stand stupidity!"
• "If you want a girlfriend in a leash, consider getting a dog."

3. Have you ever engineered the end of a relationship e.g doing something you know will put the other person off? If yes, what did you do?

I orchestrated a "cheating" scenario.  I used a closet gay friend to act out as my "lover."  I will spare you the gory details, but trust me, my gay friend and I were talking about hot guys in my room, on my bed.  hahahaha

4. Have you ever stayed with a partner just because you could not bear to end it?

No.  I just don't have the patience and the character that some people call a "saint".  I am much too honest and direct with how I feel. I choose to act on my feelings.

5. Have you ever encouraged a friend to end a relationship? What happened? Are you still friends?

I don't really mess with other people's relationships, even that of my friends.  If my opinion is asked, I try my best to withhold. Chances are, they wouldn't listen anyway. But I do become very vocal and assertive when I see a friend in an "abusive" relationship. I adore my friends and they adore me back.  We keep respect and trust in check at all times.

Bonus: Have you ever been the cause of a relationship to end? Tell us about it.

This has happened to me quite frequently.  I am a "natural" flirt.  If you know me better, you can tell the difference if I am "pawing" at the guy or I am just having a good time. 

There was this one particular time at a Club, I was standing near the Bar area waiting for a friend.  A guy comes up to get a drink and starts getting cute and charming with me.  After a few minutes, a  familiar looking girl, who was his date or girlfriend, comes up to him and practically drags him away, cussing and hissing.  I hate scenes like that so I moved back to our table to join my friends. They were all watching and laughing at the scene.  One guy friend quipped, "These boys never learn. It's like they want to be in a world of pain." Then it clicked, the girl was somebody we know from the University. She and her friends don't particularly like me and my friends. You know how women can be so competitive. Anyway, a few minutes later, the same "hot" guy comes scuttling back up to the Bar, spots me at our table and re-introduces himself. I smile and introduce him to my friends. Then he started explaining about the scene and the girl and profusely apologized.  I was half-listening. He later asked me for my number. I gave a gay friend's mobile line, not mine.  He left the bar grinning and pleased with himself. I could have given mine. But if he was actually seeing that bitch, then he just automatically eliminated himself.

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